I’m the first to admit that I have somewhat nontraditional taste in men. An impressive and well-paid job? Ugh. Give me a freelance drummer any day! Yet the thing that possibly attracts me most isn’t their looks or their earning potential; rather, it’s their dynamic with their ex-partners.
As the daughter of parents who worked hard to remain positive about one another after their divorce, it may not be entirely surprising that I’m insanely into men who only have good things to say about their former spouses. Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez are frequently held up as an ideal of friendship after romantic entanglement; random old photos of them hanging out post-split frequently go viral on social media to this day. But hearing Affleck praise Lopez—as well as his ex-wife and co-parent Jennifer Garner—in a recent interview only served to revive my insane crush on him, giant phoenix back tattoo and all.
“To understand Jennifer Lopez, honestly, is to understand somebody who really is a pioneer, who did things when she was told they’re not possible and you’re not welcome, by [a] kind of force of will,” Affleck recently told Jorge and Paola Ramos on their podcast The Moment,
